Help with something personal..

Zanate · 09-16-2006, 12:42 PM

well im gonna post this since i like these forums and tehy really respond cool stuff..this time is nothing about piu or videogames or anything like that....please i kinda feel confuse so dont ruin this..

well like a lot know i met my current girlfriend thx to pump it up, and we started since the last sunday..and its really cool im really starting to luv her..its like we are 2 soul mates...

anyway, im kinda confused because by phone she told me some serious shit im not used to deal with..she told me in certain ways she got raped by someoene...she really gets in pain when you talk about mutillation in femenine parts (the chat about mutilation started because she likes gore, and she told me she saw a video where they mutillate the pussy of a girl..and she said something similar happened to her...that really fucking scared me)..and when you talk about rapeage in street or something like that she really gets sad...

i mean im not fucking froid but i kinda want and dont wanna hear what happened..i mean i really luv her but this is something it really bothers me...i cant ask my brother or dad because theyll say that shes a nobody and etc etc..and no one fucking really understands whats being raped (not even me, the only ones that really know that say that is a fucking nightmare...)

so i need advices please guys..how should i manage that, ask her or not etc..thx for your support guys really...

GOD GODDY · 09-16-2006, 01:36 PM

I'm gonna be Frank Straight, ok?

1. You've known her for a week tops, you are not in love.
2. She is telling you rape stories, she's gonna be a burden on you.
3. She is telling you rape stories, that's creepy.
4. She watches and talks about gore, that's awesome.
5. She watches and talks about gore, but she got raped, and talks about being raped, and then says she hates talks on the street about rape. Stop talking about rape.

Here is what you do in a situation like this:

1. Hide in her closet.
2. Wait until she is sleeping.
3. Put on a funny mask.
3a. ??????
4. Rape her!

On second thought, rape her while having this expression the entire time.

Please don't get confused with the word "rake" otherwise she might like it.

DeusExMachina · 09-16-2006, 02:20 PM

What nationality is she? In the middle east they practice "female circumsition" which is essentially cutting off portions of the woman's gentalia. It is pure tradition based and there is no medical basis behind it. It is sad its terrible and yet it happens. Is she a victim of one of those practices?

Well regardless of what has happened to her in the past or if you plan to get with her or not, at the very least you should be supportive of her and help her cope through her difficult times. If she needs a shoulder to cry on be there for her regardless. She trusts you obviously otherwise she wouldn't have told you about that.

ruri · 09-16-2006, 04:40 PM

This bitch sounds crazy.

ANGRY ABOUT ENGLISH · 09-17-2006, 05:19 AM

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Originally Posted by ruri

This bitch sounds crazy.

Let me mention, as someone who dated similar: this bitch IS crazy. I'm sorry, but here's a fun test.

1) Have you known the person a while before they mention having been raped? (Let's say a month minimum.) If no? Step 2. If yes? Well, I can't accurately diagnose if crazy or not. Waiting probably means they didn't want to mention it up front until they knew if you were a decent enough person to be around.
2) How fast DID it come up? If it was a week waited, you might be safe, there's still a chance that she was getting it out of the way fast to see how you react. But the problem I see is...
3) Does she appear to be trying to make this YOUR burden? And I know this sounds horrible, but that's what it looks like to me. Now. I'm not saying that you need to flee or anything. I will say, however, that you need to be ready, because you might be getting yourself into some shit with a potentially unbalanced individual. If at any time, you find yourself going "Okay, this is a little (fucked up/trippy/frightening)", step back, look at how things are going, and contemplate breaking it off, or at least putting a small amount of distance between you two.

Zanate · 09-17-2006, 09:12 AM

fuck niggas! you really know how to mess someones feelings..and well some answers to every1:

-shes not a crazy bitch shes my gf muthafuckas...

-yeah i steped out when she told me she got raped...(she didnt tell me directly, she told me something similar not exactly..i mean she told me she doesnt like to talk about rape with knives because something similar happened to her...not exactly she got raped

-wtf homie with the mask lol..even if im serious, that shittty joke made me laugh---

and plz dont say more stupid jokes....
-shes mexican..not some wack tradition from an awsome country--

GOD GODDY · 09-17-2006, 07:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Zanate

-shes not a crazy bitch shes my gf muthafuckas...

According to your original post you've been "gf/bf" for a week. You're taking your feelings too far for such a brief period of time.

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Originally Posted by Zanate

-wtf homie with the mask lol..even if im serious, that shittty joke made me laugh

Couldn't have been such a terrible joke if it got you to laugh, then.

Steve_V · 09-17-2006, 09:03 PM

I laughed at that joke too.

I'd say be passive. Don't bring up the subject.
If she wants to talk about it then listen to her.
Otherwise don't mention it.

GOD GODDY · 09-17-2006, 11:10 PM

Actually while it wasn't a terrible joke it also wasn't that great. It was more of an average joke. If it hadn't been done before it'd be great, but seeing how as the middle of that post (which is the part you're all laughing at) is borrowing from a common internet meme, it loses some funny value due to unoriginality. The rest of the post was more of my unserious style, which etc etc I'll write a piece on my humor style sometime this week.

Zanate · 09-18-2006, 10:16 AM

fuck she already told me what happened and i was furious tbh....

she told that her ex boyfriend was a fucking pervo and tried to rape her with a fucking knife..she even told me she has a scarf because that son of a bitch heated up the knife and tried to cut her back..i really swear that when i find that mother fucker im gonna break his ass up..because shes a super cool girl...i mean im only a week with her, but really like her..in my previous relations they never worked that fast and cool...thats why i like her

and i wont bring the subject up..when she told me tat she told me that she was telling me this because she loves me and that i needed to know that...

change of subject: how to kill or hurt really bad that nigga without geeting caught xD?

**CStarFlare** · 09-18-2006, 10:34 AM

I don't care how cool she is. She's either bsing for attention, or she comes with a shitton of emotional baggage that you'll have to put up with, probably with no real long-term payoff since you're both kids. In all likelyhood, this isn't the woman you're going to spend the rest of your life with. Not worth it.

GOD GODDY · 09-18-2006, 12:57 PM

Exactly what I've been hinting at. If she's willing to say these things--true or not--after a week, just think of how attached she'll get over the next month and longer. You need to get out before you put yourself in some serious shit.

**CStarFlare** · 09-18-2006, 03:37 PM

Personal experiance:

My first/only girlfriend told me (quite soon after we started dating) about how her stepdad had tried to rape her, and would frequently tell me stories about how campers (she worked/lived at a camp ground) would try to force her to do shit. She left for the army less than two weeks after we started dating. Four months and a few phone calls later, she wanted to get married.

If she'll start telling you such personal shit off the bat, she might end up moving faster than you want her to. You're probably going to end up running in the other direction, might as well do it sooner instead of later.

Zanate · 09-18-2006, 06:03 PM

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Originally Posted by God

You need to get out before you put yourself in some serious shit.

like..?

and yes thats kinda something i dont wanna belive..but i mean, i dont wanna marry her lol...i mean i like her but not that way...

GOD GODDY · 09-18-2006, 08:15 PM

You may not like her in that way, but obviously she is moving at a pace that is far faster than you'd like.

What kind of shit? Well, for example, she may end up telling you about how she hates talking about rape because she experienced similar torture. Would you get uncomfortable from hearing that so soon or would you welcome it and enjoy it?